I have found that my former self, aka BE (before Evie) was quite the life. I could come and go as I pleased, take an hour to get ready, enjoy my breakfast (eat breakfast), nap to Lifetime movies all Saturday long... you get my drift.
Now, life AE (after Evie) has shown me what true time management and planning is. I take 10-20 minutes to get ready; eat cereal sitting on the floor next to her; I eat every meal in 5-10 minutes because a melt down is inevitable during meal time; we go to dinner with the old folks because E is fed, changed, and awake and happy; and Saturday naps are short lived.
We plan everything. From meal times, to nap times, to who is picking up and dropping off. We have even planned workouts around pick up/drop off. I plan bottles, outfits and diapers for each day. Meals are often planned but not cooked because by the time I get home and she is fed all I want to do is cuddle her or sleep.
Life is just different. Yes we love our sweet baby and would not change that for the world, but no one can prepare you or the vast changes in your life. J and I used to be 5 day a week gym people, as in we lived for the gym. Now, well I went for the first time on a month and J has been getting maybe 2 workouts in a week. So, now we have scheduled gym time and hopefully we can both get in 3 workouts a week. We can't just both go at the same time anymore since E is still little and heck to the no am I leaving her at the grimy gym daycare right now.
It seems the only time I am not planning or stressing about baby is at work. And then its only because I am in a hurry to get all the stuff done I need to, so I can leave and be home with.... the baby!
It amazes me how much planning it takes just to run to Target, or grab a meal or do just about anything. I can't imagine what we would do with 2! Kudos moms out there, kudos to you.
I hear the change is a doozy and that you are never truly prepared for it, despite your best efforts. I know it's been different but I think you and J have handled the changed so well. Hopefully the gym schedule works out and lil E sleeps better so things can be a bit less scheduled. She's such a lucky girl to have such loving parents! <3 you!
ReplyDeleteOh, friend. I laughed when reading this because I am right there in the trenches right now with you - x2, lol! I went to Target today with both kids, and it literally took like 20 minutes just to get out the door with making sure I've got snacks, diapers, pacifiers, sippy cups, burp rags, my wallet, etc. And then both kids fussed all the way through the store, so it was miserable. It's almost not even worth it sometimes! I am impressed that you and J do still manage to get to the gym at all. Bravo!!! My workouts lately consist of chasing after a toddler and nursing an infant, lol! Parenting ain't for the faint of heart, am I right? These days do go by fast though, and soon you'll wonder where your tiny girl went and will miss it. Take heart!
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